Bullying...

I was talking to an Aunt that came to visit and she told me something that was incredibly sad and astonishing to me. She told me how young kids from the age of nine where getting bullied so bad they would commit suicide. I have heard of this here with teenagers but kids? oh and she is from South America so it was a bigger shock I don't know why, I guess I just didn't realize bullying was everywhere not just here. Its such a big problem everywhere its sad. Why do people have to be so mean to each other? I just don't get it. I know a lot of people get bullied I was one but luckily I didn't go out and hang myself. I always thought that bullying was just something people went through to learn to be strong and truly learn who they are and what they want to be as human beings. Yet I can see now that it has become worse then that, people are taking bullying to the crazy extreme of actually hurting people, pushing others to the point of physical harm is just wretched. I hear a lot about bullying on tv and see it on the internet and it makes me sad. What can we do to help these people learn to love themselves and ignore others? Or Even better what can we do to all those bullies in the world? If we could lock them up and throw away the keys it would be great. I know I been bullied alot and to be frank I will not ever talk to those people again I have actually got requests on social media sites from some of them and guess what this girl just hits IGNORE! That's how you deal with bullies.... Let me know how you have dealt with your bullies? Well till the next time readers....

Losing weight ......

I got this idea for this post through a recent conversation with a cousin of mine and if she reads this she will know who she is, granted I do get upset when I see women take drastic measure to look like a model on the cover of vogue, why you ask? Because THEY ARE NOT REAL WOMEN!!!!! Real woman have hips and have profound bust-line, guess what most normal women don't have a space between there legs when the stand straight. Honestly that's gross! So my cousin thinks I take it personal, since she was talking about a relative (who is a normal size for a women in her lets say forties). To me its just not right what people, well women to put themselves through all this stuff just to be what society calls normal or sexy. I figure God gives you your body whether it is big, small, flat, round, square, whatever its yours be glad he put you on the earth to begin with, just take care of what God gave you, love yourself first. A lot of you may be thinking what does she know, guess what I am not a size 2 I have never been nor would I want to be nor would I even look good at that size, I am not small framed either, but I have fallen into the pull of the fab diets, the crash diets and the starvation diets, I have even made myself throw up! I paid more attention to what people told me "If you were thinner you would be pretty" like I wasn't good enough or pretty enough as I was? Everywhere I turned 'lose weight' or 'you would have more guys like you if you were thinner' all that hurts and don't think it was all from 'friends' we are talking family members! So yeah I hated myself and started to throw up in a month I lost 50 pounds guess what all those family members and 'friends' that told me all those negative things, they then complemented me saying I looked good to keep doing what I was doing, Until my mom caught me, then well like all moms she nipped that in the bud, and that's when I started to realize why am I hurting myself with all these things to lose weight? I was trying to make others happy when all I had to learn  was to be happy with myself, love myself. I am a full figured woman, I am not lazy, I eat healthy and I do moderate exercise, I have never been smaller then a size 16, I walk and a run I coach soccer and believe me I keep myself moving as much as I can. So yeah all this crap of detoxing to lose weight, no way, detox to clean your colon or to cleanse you insides not to lose weight that's torture. I also saw this new thing it was some kind of juice that made you lose weight ok and that works for everyone? NO! I know a few people that kill themselves at the gym twice a day and have not lost any weight and yes they eat super healthy we are talking lots of fiber and veggies, does it work no. People, women of the world I implore you to look at yourselves IF you need or want to lose weight then learn your body see what works don't go to extremes to lose weight believe me I have been there its not good. I will give you an example I have changed the way I cook and eat I try to avoid carbs,why you ask because I did a quick-test lets just  say on myself I decided to get rid of carbs or eat smaller portions of carbs and larger portions of protein and veggies to see what would happen guess what, I lost weight combined with walking 3 times a week. I have some Aunties that insist that eating fiber and not eating protein would work better for my body it doesn't, so that taught me to just change my life style and I also eat several times a day snacks like nuts and yogurt if I get hungry if not I don't and stick with the three meals a day. So with that I tell all you women that yeah it can be done without going to the extreme. Oh there is also another thing that chaps my hide big time, on FB I think it was a Womens Magazine that posted a picture of a thin woman and a fat women inside the hollowed out frame of each were foods, this I took as insulting one since I am FAT I truly disagreed and by the comments alot of women of the world also disagreed. Inside the thin woman's figure was salad, juices,veggies, fish, etc; inside the Fat woman's figure was French fries, milkshakes, hamburgers, KFC, McD's etc. What the holy hell was that!!!! Yes I'm FAT and NO I don't eat at fast food joints and I don't like milkshakes, want to know what I eat, whatever I cook at home, I am Peruvian/American I cook I don't eat out much and if I do then I do. But my favorite food is anything homemade and salads. So what was all that stereo typing from a national magazine? CRAP! Yeah ok some Fat women out there only eat fast food but not all of us and guess what Woman's Mag skinny chicks also eat fast food they just hide it better!!! So anyways my whole point of this is this, Women of the world love yourselves learn what your body needs and what it doesn't and for goodness sake do not torture your body, because God gave you one body not to torture but to love. Till the next time readers.... Love yourself first!!

BEEN A WHILE..........

Its been about 7 months since my last post, I won'say that its because of my pain because its not just that, I have been straight lazy and not feeling like writing. I will tell you in short what I have been up to, this last summer was different, me and my kid went to California to spend time with family that was in June. It was fun we went to universal studios and the beach and here and there mainly with my grandmother and aunt and uncle. Then we got back home, believe me we were ecstatic to be back home, got ready for back to school. Here school starts in the second week of August, we had a fun summer but lets talk about hectic... In august my grandmother turned 90 yrs old, we went to see her my uncle and auntie threw her a grand party inviting the family (we are Peruvian so u can imagine a lot of people). The affair lasted all night i believe we didn't get to sleep until midnight.We danced most of the night away, it brought back alot of memories from when I was a child watching all the aunts and uncles and my parents dance and party all night. To make a long story short we had fun, the following day which was my birthday we headed home so this years birthday for me was on the road driving home either way it was a nice Birthday and end of summer. Till the next time readers...

Skip March jump to April......

I has been a while since I have posted anything seeing that i just skipped the entire month of march, I will sum up what has been going on ..... NOT MUCH.. hahaha  Well in March I was in alot of pain due to spring cleaning, I know there are a lot I shouldn't be doing around the house but hey I like a clean house what else can I say. I got the cleaning done Thank GOD! Then last minute my uncle and aunt came to bring my grandmother for a visit they stayed only for a weekend but it was nice seeing them. Coincidentally the weekend they were here coincided with my boys birthday so for the first time in years the family was fully together to celebrate his birthday. My boy was the happiest boy in the world, and frankly so was my dad to be able to hang out and see his little brother. So that was the first week of April and now we are on the 15th tax day. Other then all that I really haven't bee up to anything, I had alot of ideas on what to write about but then I forgot I will remember eventually then you will all get tired of reading this blog....Have a good one till the next time....

School lunches today vs my day...

I don't know about you but it seems that the food at the schools are getting worse and worse. Back when I was in elementary school in California, the food was not good per-say but it was healthier then now-a-days. It could also be the fact that now I am in another state but either way it is not good. People are always talking about parents making their kids diabetic, why don't people see the food that the cafeteria gives our children is FULL of sugar. If anything the schools are helping our children get higher levels of sugar, granted it is also hereditary but why help. For example my boy doesn't eat a whole lot of sugar he has come home several times telling me that the food they give for snacks or lunch are too sweet for him to eat so much so his teeth hurt. Of course now I send him with a homemade lunch or something so if there is something they give he wants to eat he can. Needless to say they will have food he likes like Frito-boats (or what they call here Frito-pie which is Frito with chili beans and cheese and lettuce kinda like a salad), or corn-dogs, normal things. Then there days when they have sweet Mexican sweet bread or banana bread (lots of sugar I have eaten it when my son bring it to show me it grossly sweet). Pudding cups that are supper sweet, sometimes they have for breakfast the same as lunch Pizza for breakfast pizza for lunch, not once do they give good vegetables. They also give them sweet burritos with extra syrup, here in New Mexico the nutritional director for the school is either trying to give children diabetics or they really don't know what good healthy food is.Thee is also the other question of maybe the nutritional director is just trying to save money but on our kids risk... HELL NO!!! I can go on forever but I am getting myself upset again so I will leave this for you all to just think about and research your own childs school do your kids get good food at school? or do they get nothing good? Have a good day all...

Writing, and more writing.....

I have not been blogging for the same reason as always damn PAIN. I know I should not complain but I am not used to being so damn useless, or incompetent. Granted I have this voice writer that writes for me but I still rather do it myself.
     To change the complaining let me tell you what I have been up to. So I started a new book, needless to say the sequel to Sarah's Revenge is at a pause, the new book is a little different then my first but I am having a lot of fun writing it. I think I have about five books started and my goal is to get one done by the end of 2014. One of which is a book about my father's side of the family starting with my great grandmothers life as a child. I was lucky to know and grow up with my great grandmother so I remember a lot of her stories. Even though writing this book makes my tears flow freely at times, it is also a great way to collect my family history and be able to share it. Another book that frankly I will admit to be taking my time writing, is somewhat related to my own experience with love, no not a romance per-say, more of a horror. haha We all as women have had that experience have we not. Of course this book will NOT be exactly what happen to me I will make it a bit more exciting of course. Who knows by the time I finish it may end up being totally fabricated.
     Till the next time, I am to go and write a little more. If you can please like my author page of FB.. author page is https://www.facebook.com/pages/EL-Gonzales/272468349546455 ... the more likes I get the  bigger smile I will have... Bless you all... till the next time.....

Elvis would have been 79 years old today...

My obsession with Elvis Presley may have contributed to this blog the first of the 2014 year, but either way I was going to write it anyway. Today is  the day of Elvis Presley's birthday and for the first time in over 6 years I get to go see an impersonator Elvis concert. I am very happy and excited to go see this guys, all I hope is that he gives a good show.
        I have read a lot of stories pertaining to Elvis's life/death and it seems there is a lot of rumors out there. Let me see if I can set a few straight: Yes Elvis was a twin his twin was still born and was named Jessie Garon. Elvis was NOT a drug addict, he did die with many medications in his system but non were the cause of his death. Elvis had lots of health problems starting from his time in the army, Elvis also had hypertension that was a big contribution to his heart attack not because of drug use. Furthermore the medications in his system were all prescribed to him and were not found in excess. Even though Elvis had many girlfriends his first and true love was always and remains to be Priscilla. Elvis's least favorite movie he made was G.I Blues (even though it is one of MY favorites) he used to say it was because they had him sing every-time he turned around. Many of you are wondering how would I know so much if  I wasn't around when all this took place. Well one simple answer I have always loved Elvis since I was able to walk, talk and sing. I don't like to say that I am a fan because a fan to me is just a crazed loony that has no background on why they like a certain person or thing. I am an Enthusiast, I know exactly why I like Elvis so much and what he has influenced in my life and why. I also know about his life and what it meant to him, I think I may know alot. But if you were to ask me I would love to pick Priscilla's brain for more actual information. but that maybe a reach or a dream for now.  Well till the next time... I am off to the Elvis show... May you all have a Happy Elvis Birthday Day!!!!